They say, comparison is the thief of joy and this made me wonder...
Do you ever look at someone else's work and wonder why they are more successful than you? Do you think: How come she has more followers? Why is her body prettier or thinner than mine? Why is her work featured every time and mine is not? How much money does she make? She's just lucky...
Do you?
If so, I hope you will have a closer look at your own creations, your body or your work. Look at your own piece of grass, so to speak. Do you see your own beauty, your self worth, or the work that you are putting out into the world, in a positive or negative way?
Then honestly ask yourself this:
Do you give your own grass the same amount of attention?
Do you spend as much of your energy and your time caring for yourself? Do you focus on what you love to do?
Do you?
Because there's no need to compare yourself with someone else. The grass is literally not greener over on her side - because we all have our struggles.
Nobody's journey is perfect.
I hope you remember that, when you look at all the perfectly styled and curated squares on social media. Instead, focus on nurturing your own piece of grass. Because when you do, you'll see that all along it is growing in a perfect shade of green.
Pay attention to what really matters.
You.
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They say, comparison is the thief of joy and this made me wonder...
Do you ever look at someone else's work and wonder why they are more successful than you? Do you think: How come she has more followers? Why is her body prettier or thinner than mine? Why is her work featured every time and mine is not? How much money does she make? She's just lucky...
Do you?
“Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it's having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome. Vulnerability is not weakness; it's our greatest measure of courage.” ~ Brene Brown
Some day - after all this is over and we are running around again in our busy lives - we'll look back at this lockdown and see the importance of slowing down.
"For me, writing from the heart - the way I'm doing right now - is something I always did and will continue to do so. Because that's the kind of woman I intend to stay." ~ Maureen
I always say that living in New York City has thought me to Own My Story.
Well, the part of owning your story and sharing it with others online - to inspire or empower - also means that you need to be vulnerable. I'm okay with this part.
"Cling to joy. Bold audacious joy, that looks for Light in everything - even when you're waiting" ~morgan harper nichols
Hello Everyone,
Tomorrow, Monday March 30th, I'm hosting a 40 minutes Zoom Chat for all of you, who want to talk about moving forward - whether in your business or personal development.
"We are at our finest when we take care of each other"
As we all live in very uncertain times, due to the Corona virus spreading around the world, these last few days I've been thinking long and hard what to do regarding the Meetups…
IMPORTANT UPDATE:
DUE TO THE SPREADING OF THE CORONA VIRUS,
THIS AND OTHER MC EVENTS, ARE CANCELLED UNTIL FURTHER NOTICE.
“For many years I’ve moved from country to country and last year - when I moved from New York City to Brighton - I had this small idea of bringing women together.
To hold a space for each other, to connect and collaborate, to learn and to grow. That’s how the first Creative Meetup started.
And you know what happened? There was magic in the air. Because there’s something special about a group of women gathering together, making real connections with each other - face to face….”
Do you know about the P-club?
The club of Procrastination. The one club we all have walked in and stayed too long. Maybe not always - only in the periods of our lives we wanted to avoid something. We probably were having a good time, while our brain was telling us “shouldn’t you be doing this or that?”. If there was a real P-club, I would definitely be a member. Honour medal and all.
But I also know when it’s time to come out of the P-club and focus on what really matters to keep me going - my body, mind and soul.
It’s almost happening - our next Creative Meetup in Brighton will be on February 26th!
This time we are collaborating with Art Republic Gallery and the evening will take place in their beautiful gallery in the North Laines in Brighton. Art Republic is a great place to stimulate and inspire our minds for this event. Our guest speaker is the sweet and talented Rossella from Rossella Skincare and together with our two other guests, it’s going to be a mixed evening of learning, connecting and creating - all while you’re enjoying a drink and some nibbles from Luisa from Abeille Bakery.
Could I inspire others or even empower them when I have doubts myself? I thought about this for awhile, but yes - yes I can! (“oh hello Fear, here you are - again… do have a seat in the back of my mind and I’ll continue with my day, okay?”)
“When you buy from a small business, an actual person does a little happy dance.”
Showing support for any small business is huge and can be the connecting dots they need to either stay in business, or simply to be seen by more people. So I’m giving away the newest print edition of the 91 magazine - which I bought at our local specialized Magazine Shop in Brighton.
This year is flying by so fast, I can’t believe we’re already preparing for our fourth Meetup!
If you are new here, at Moksi Collective we’re big on creating community, by empowering female creatives and entrepreneurs. Our Meetups are relaxed with drinks & nibbles while we talk about different topics - from creativity & wellbeing to business tools, social media and everything in between.
Each month has a different main topic and for October it’s “Creating Community”.
We all love to look at pretty pictures, right? Whether it’s online, on tv, in magazines or in books - our imagination gets triggered and inspiration kicks in when we see visually inspiring photo’s or videos. That’s why so many of us love to be on Instagram. But what most people don't realize, is that Instagram, Facebook and Twitter are social media networks who are always in need of feeding new content.
Now ask yourself this; is it worth spending so much of your time, effort and energy into these apps? Enter Pinterest.
Tonight, I couldn’t stop thinking about the meaning of names and titles and the importance we put on ourselves and others.
From the moment we are born, our name is attached to us. Perhaps we’ll change it later in life by marriage or preference - but still, we have that name. It’s not who we are.
And yet, when it comes to our titles at work or as a profession, we somehow tend to put more value on this part of our lives.
Always wanted to connect with other like minded women?
Then come to our Brighton Meetups and bring a friend for free!
Here at Moksi Collective, we are big on creating a vibrant, diverse & kind community.
One way of doing this, is by creating monthly Meetups and September’s topic is ‘How to grow your creative business with Pinterest’. Join our introduction conversation with Pinterest experts Georgie & Dörte from Curly Carrot.
Sometimes you have an idea and follow it, but you have no clue that it could be the start of something new…
Have a look at ‘Gathering’ - our first MC Brighton Meetup in June.
Today I had a thought - what if I never had taken the first step towards my dreams? Or the first step to create our nomadic lifestyle? Time will go on and it’s up to you, how you want to look back on this season in your life.
So let me ask you this - Are you happy how this year has gone so far? Did you go after that specific goal? Are you chasing your dreams? Or is it still just that - a dream? And also let’s be honest - making a plan is great. But more importantly - take the action needed to step towards that dream.
Do you believe in Community over Competition?
If you are in the area, join us & bring a free guest to our next meetup in Brighton!
Moksi Collective is Growing & Changing and my smile is getting bigger with each day!
There is an African saying that perfectly captures a big part of my mission:
"If you want to go fast, go alone.
If you want to go far, Go Together."
And Together is the key word here indeed - Moksi Collective is Growing as a Community & Platform.
If we could go back in time, for only one minute - what would you tell your younger self?
It could be written as a list that would serve you well growing up, even till this day.
A list of things written on a piece of paper for teenage You to read when needed - in times of self doubt, fears or worries. To make sure you stay focused and to keep you walking your own path.
A piece of paper that would bring You back to the future. What would you say?
I’ve made a list of 10 things I would write to my younger self, that would serve me - and I hope you too - even today.
It’s a strange thing to experience - nerves while I’m in my home alone recording a message. What the heck is wrong with me? I’m the one who loves to talk and I’m the one nervous to talk? To my phone? But it’s the truth - I’m nervous and I have to deal with it. So finally I thought, this is the time to step into the arena.
Now, if you know Brene Brown and know what I just said, you are nodding your head, right?
For those of you who think - ‘arena? Wait, what…?’
I promised myself to wait before I would start sharing this with you all. Wait till I’m ready to talk about my goals and what I’m working on. Where this will lead Moksi Collective in the near future. I promised not to put more pressure on myself - remember, I’m trying to be cool with my ‘done is better than perfect’ mission while being creative. But what I know for sure, is that whenever I have this feeling, that tingling feeling inside of my gut, I need to follow it…
Let’s talk about the subject so many of us are talking about and so many are avoiding to talk about. Yet, it is right in front of us every single day - the lack of diversity and inclusivity in so many industries. I believe life in general would be much better, if we look at someone as a person, first and foremost. But I’ve experienced many forms of subtle and direct racism and direct exclusivity my whole life. Yet it does not stop me from doing what I want, or treating people differently, or claiming my seat at any table. I do this in my own way - by being myself, by being kind, but direct. I ask questions and set boundaries. My grandma and my parents raised me to be better than the person who wants to hurt me with their words or actions. And I’ve two girls who I’m teaching the same. I hope you will stop to think about what it means, to see no inclusivity in what you are reading or consuming. Six little words. Spread the question.
“Who is not in the room?”